Learning to Love Yourself

I am going to preach about self love and how important it is. If you have struggled with self- image, self- love, self- esteem, or self-confidence and you’ve never really learned how to help yourself, here are a few ways I have done to learn how to love yourself more over time. Learning to love yourself doesn’t happen overnight. It has taken me a few months, actually, a few years, to realize that I’m better than who I think. I am who I believe I am. It has taken me a long time to know my self-worth. 

I’m going to teach you how to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re a “bad bitch” (in a good way!) The first thing you is to acknowledge to yourself that you are the only you that you ever need to be. I know it sounds cheesy, but when you can look in the mirror and say to yourself, “There are things I don’t like about myself right now and I’m going to work on  them; but at the end of the day, this is the only me that I will ever be,” you are on the right track. It shows you that you are starting to realize your self-worth. Second, think about all the qualities that make you who you are. What are the qualities that make you “you?” If you need to make a list of all the certain characteristics and qualities about yourself that make you unique, then write them all down. Look at that long list you have made and don’t sell yourself short; you know that you are an awesome person! 

These are some of the first steps I have taken to learn how to love myself more and know my worth in this world. Remember to celebrate the unique qualities about you!

Fear

What is fear? Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Does fear exist? Why does fear get the most of people? These are all questions I do not know the answers to and for me the Internet will not be able to answer those questions. The only person that can answer those questions are you and myself. I wish I could say I am a fearless person, I am spontaneous, and I am adventurous. To be honest I am scared a lot of the time. I never like getting in trouble because I am scared of the consequences. I can be adventurous and spontaneous sometimes but it is not like fear. Whenever I am about to do something and I am scared I feel a pain in my chest and in my stomach. It is different from all the other kinds of pain. I have been told, “You must realize that fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create, do not misunderstand me, danger is very real but fear is a choice!”  This quote is constantly stuck in my head and I always wonder if I did not have these collective thoughts in my head of fear would I have fear? In the past few weeks, I have gone through many situations and scenarios where fear got the most of me but I was able to pull through and complete the task. I constantly told myself I am strong and I am confident. Completing that certain task at first, fear got the best of me but I was able to push it out-of-the-way. Fear is something that lives in you forever in my opinion. In addition, the only way to get rid of it in certain scenarios is to stand your ground. You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop and look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do. 

 

Staying Strong!

There comes a time in life where you feel trapped, you don’t know which direction to go, your mood swings are all over the place, and maybe you cry sometimes. At the start of 2020 everyone said “this is going to be the best year ever, 2020 vision.” People were planning to live their best lives and spread happiness everywhere.” Little did all human beings know that this would be one of the hardest years for many people. People have been locked up in their homes for months, thousands have died, friendships have been distanced apart. People have second-guessed what’s happening to them “why are they always sad, why do they feel lonely.” But I’m here to tell you that you’re not going through it alone. I’m lonely, I’m sad, I cry. I’ve been trapped in quarantine for five months along with many other people and I bet a lot of us are all feeling the same emotions. I am here to tell you to hold on a little longer because it’s going to get better. Each day you will rise above and you will show yourself that there is good. There is better coming. Don’t let go now because you yourself have so much to offer and I know from the bottom of my heart there is happiness waiting for you. I’ve had a rough last month. I crashed my car. Update: it’s fixed and perfectly brand new. Friendships of mine got further apart from each other. My father received double hip replacement surgery. And almost every night I’m crying myself to sleep. But I know this is just a phase, a phase of sadness. I need to know that things are going to get better and that I shouldn’t look down I should only look up. If you’re going through a hard time right now this is for you. Keep your head up high because there is happiness and a good road ahead of you. So stay strong for me. It’s not always easy, but that’s life. Be strong. Know that there are better days ahead.