Learning to Love Yourself

I am going to preach about self love and how important it is. If you have struggled with self- image, self- love, self- esteem, or self-confidence and you’ve never really learned how to help yourself, here are a few ways I have done to learn how to love yourself more over time. Learning to love yourself doesn’t happen overnight. It has taken me a few months, actually, a few years, to realize that I’m better than who I think. I am who I believe I am. It has taken me a long time to know my self-worth. 

I’m going to teach you how to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re a “bad bitch” (in a good way!) The first thing you is to acknowledge to yourself that you are the only you that you ever need to be. I know it sounds cheesy, but when you can look in the mirror and say to yourself, “There are things I don’t like about myself right now and I’m going to work on  them; but at the end of the day, this is the only me that I will ever be,” you are on the right track. It shows you that you are starting to realize your self-worth. Second, think about all the qualities that make you who you are. What are the qualities that make you “you?” If you need to make a list of all the certain characteristics and qualities about yourself that make you unique, then write them all down. Look at that long list you have made and don’t sell yourself short; you know that you are an awesome person! 

These are some of the first steps I have taken to learn how to love myself more and know my worth in this world. Remember to celebrate the unique qualities about you!

Fear

What is fear? Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Does fear exist? Why does fear get the most of people? These are all questions I do not know the answers to and for me the Internet will not be able to answer those questions. The only person that can answer those questions are you and myself. I wish I could say I am a fearless person, I am spontaneous, and I am adventurous. To be honest I am scared a lot of the time. I never like getting in trouble because I am scared of the consequences. I can be adventurous and spontaneous sometimes but it is not like fear. Whenever I am about to do something and I am scared I feel a pain in my chest and in my stomach. It is different from all the other kinds of pain. I have been told, “You must realize that fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create, do not misunderstand me, danger is very real but fear is a choice!”  This quote is constantly stuck in my head and I always wonder if I did not have these collective thoughts in my head of fear would I have fear? In the past few weeks, I have gone through many situations and scenarios where fear got the most of me but I was able to pull through and complete the task. I constantly told myself I am strong and I am confident. Completing that certain task at first, fear got the best of me but I was able to push it out-of-the-way. Fear is something that lives in you forever in my opinion. In addition, the only way to get rid of it in certain scenarios is to stand your ground. You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop and look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do. 

 

Staying Strong!

There comes a time in life where you feel trapped, you don’t know which direction to go, your mood swings are all over the place, and maybe you cry sometimes. At the start of 2020 everyone said “this is going to be the best year ever, 2020 vision.” People were planning to live their best lives and spread happiness everywhere.” Little did all human beings know that this would be one of the hardest years for many people. People have been locked up in their homes for months, thousands have died, friendships have been distanced apart. People have second-guessed what’s happening to them “why are they always sad, why do they feel lonely.” But I’m here to tell you that you’re not going through it alone. I’m lonely, I’m sad, I cry. I’ve been trapped in quarantine for five months along with many other people and I bet a lot of us are all feeling the same emotions. I am here to tell you to hold on a little longer because it’s going to get better. Each day you will rise above and you will show yourself that there is good. There is better coming. Don’t let go now because you yourself have so much to offer and I know from the bottom of my heart there is happiness waiting for you. I’ve had a rough last month. I crashed my car. Update: it’s fixed and perfectly brand new. Friendships of mine got further apart from each other. My father received double hip replacement surgery. And almost every night I’m crying myself to sleep. But I know this is just a phase, a phase of sadness. I need to know that things are going to get better and that I shouldn’t look down I should only look up. If you’re going through a hard time right now this is for you. Keep your head up high because there is happiness and a good road ahead of you. So stay strong for me. It’s not always easy, but that’s life. Be strong. Know that there are better days ahead.

 

Good Days vs Bad Days

There are good days and there are bad days. The good days put smiles on people’s faces. On a good day it’s easier to go to bed. On the good days, your attitude might be less bossy and calm with a sense of happiness. However, on the bad days that is when you realize your life as a whole. One bad thing, one small piece of something of your day can ruin everything. Us teens let the bad things get to us too easily. Us teens are still learning a fracture of who we are and how to handle the bad days. But with support systems those bad days can turn and then on those bad days you can realize who’s there for you and who isn’t. Life is hard we all know it, but it’s your job to pick yourself up in the times of struggle. It’s your job to power through the times of sadness. It’s your job to put a smile on your face. It’s your job to remember that in a bad day there’s always a tomorrow and it’s your job to remember that things will fall back into place it just takes time. So in those bad days keep your head up high try to put a smile on your face. Tell yourself if you’re having a bad day, that you have managed to get through every bad day, you’ve had, so you’ll make it through this one too. Use your struggles and frustrations today to motivate you rather than annoy you. You’re in control of the way you look at life be mindful. In the times of stress and anxiety breathe inhale and exhale and remember everything is going to be okay.

Questions

Who are you? What’s important to you? What makes you happy? What makes you sad? Why are you here today?

My name is Samantha I’m 16 and I currently live in LA.  I don’t know whats important to me. I don’t know what makes me sad I don’t know what makes me happy. I don’t know why I’m here today. You can answer these broad questions at an early age but in my opinion the answers won’t come to you very easily. These types of questions develop over time because in a four years from now you’re going to be a different person with new interests in life. I’m always asked what’s my story? I could answer that question right now based on my life currently but I know that answer is going to be different soon enough. The only question I could answer right now is what do you want to do? I want to influence and inspire people to do the right thing. I want to give advice to people who don’t know which path to take and/or if they’re stuck. I want to show teens around the world that they are not the only ones feeling like they’re trapped in a white box not knowing where to go. And I know that there are some teens out there that know what they want in life, know how to act, they know who they are, they know what they want, and they know which path to take, and I look up to those people in so many ways. But I’m going to be straight up honest with you I don’t know who I am and I’m trying to figure it out and I’m all alone. I want to be all alone because I want to be able to accomplish the things I want in life by myself. That’s what makes me powerful, sure I have family by my side and I have friends but being alone that’s confidence and that’s power. Having confidence and being brave is hard but if you “begin” and you take a “step” to what you want you can be confident and you can be brave or you can be all the other characteristic traits you want to be. Just remember, “This is your road and your road only, people can walk on it with you, but no one can walk it for you.” So go out in the world and find who you really are. Take off the mask of perfection and show the world who you are, and what you want to accomplish in life.

You are Beautiful and Unique in your Own Way

This is a small public service announcement to teens all over the world:  

I feel like I need to address this problem. Girls are comparing themselves to others and it hurts me. You are all so beautiful in so many different ways. Please don’t think you need to look a certain way to be “enough”, to fit in social media’s idea of “perfect.” I am telling you from the bottom of my heart, that you are enough. 

You are More Than

I’m more than
I’m more than
I’m more than

Body
You can’t see my body
I have more to offer than what’s under my clothes
Trust you?
Why should I trust you?
You don’t even listen when I say
NO

I’m not a dime a dozen
Oh my skin is golden
But you can’t show the whole damn world
I’m one in a billion
The only thing I’m missing
Is my worth, I hope you’re proud

Bodies
We’re more than our bodies
If you can’t accept that
Then please just go

This is a poem/ song I found. Sadly, I don’t know who wrote it but I will not take any credit for it. 

This post goes out to teen girls. Teen girls get taken advantage of too much. We girls don’t know how to act around boys. Girls get stressed, worried, and anxious when we are around someone who we think is attractive. Girls think we’re going to do whatever it takes to have that boy in our lives and some will go above and beyond to get what they want. But when going “above and beyond,” some don’t notice that they’re being taken advantage of in ways they never should be. 

We girls should be proud of what we have, we should show these young men in the world that we are more than what’s on the outside. It’s all about personality and who we are on the inside, and some boys cannot accept that reality. 

We girls are one in a million. Every single girl is different, every single girl has her own life, her own personality, style, way of living. Anyone would be the luckiest person in the world to have YOU.

GIRLS: be who you are and don’t let people take advantage of you. Make sure you’re comfortable with what you do and how you do it because in the end if you do something that you will regret it’s going to hurt like hell and you’ll never get it back. Stand your ground and tell and show the world what you want and act on it. Give the boys something to run to; show them that you are that one in a million that you truly are, both inside and out.